Hi all! Thank you for continuing to follow my blog. I know I don’t post as often as most bloggers, but I promise I’m working on it. This post is all about transition. Whether or not you are a survivor’s spouse, you all experience transitions every day.
One of the hardest things about being a Survivor’s Wife is the transition into this role from being the Patient’s Wife. All of a sudden, you’re no longer juggling single parenthood with work and countless doctor appointments. You’re not nursing a patient through night sweats and living on 2 hours of sleep a night. You have 5 minutes to sit back and reflect (or nap, depending on your priorities).
Our son was born 4 days after my husband completed his last radiation treatment. The whirlwind that was our life didn’t really settle into a new normal for about 6 months post-cancer. When I look back now, it took me a long time to be able to finally appreciate our healthy family. I had to force myself not to worry every time someone had a fever. I had to stop making myself crazy over every PET scan. One of the most rewarding things I have learned through this whole process is that I can’t control everything. Bad things are going to happen no matter how much effort you put into trying to stop them. We all need to make the best out of the time we have because nothing is a guarantee.
Last fall, when my husband saw the oncologist for his final 6 month check and was given a clean bill of health, I found myself getting restless. Patient who have been treated for Non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma are considered “cured” after 2 consecutive years in remission. We were no longer living our lives in 6 month increments. Now we get to go a whole year without seeing our “guardian angel” oncologist. This transition left me with time on my hands to reflect and re-evaluate.
What I saw was a thriving 2 ½ year old, a well-adjusted 11 year old and a happy healthy husband. What I couldn’t seem to find was me. I had been so busy taking care of everyone else, that I just wasn’t a priority. That needed to change. I had 20 lbs. of baby weight that my 39 year old body just couldn’t shed. I hadn’t had a hair cut in a year. I was working 60 hours a week and raising a young family. It was finally time for a change. It was time for me. My last post talked about getting my family healthy. This one is all about me and my journey.
I hate to sound corny and I promise, no one is paying me for this, but Advocare has changed my life. I purchased their 24 Day Challenge through a friend and was instantly hooked. I’ve tried every diet out there, with little to temporary success. Diets that achieve quick results are impossible to maintain. The restrictions just aren’t realistic for daily living. Advocare isn’t a diet – it’s a lifestyle change. The program teaches you how to eat healthy, lose weight and how to maintain it. It’s not a weight loss gimmick. Not only have I lost all 20 of my post-baby pounds, I’ve lost an additional 5 and been able to keep it off.
The 24 Day Challenge was the hardest part for me. I had to commit to learning how to make better nutritional choices and I had to convince my family to get on board. No more fried chicken parmesan. No more nightly desserts. This plan is all about clean eating. We now eat grilled chicken with tomato slices and melted fresh mozzarella. We substitute spaghetti squash for pasta. We eat fresh fruit daily. I have never felt better. My family has never felt better. We are so committed to this lifestyle that I have become an Advocare life coach.
I’m sure my next few posts will continue to be a chronicle of my family’s journey post-cancer. Now, that journey will be a healthier one. In the meantime, if you would like more information about Advocare, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
See you soon!